Fear gets the best of us, whether it is fear of failure, fear of success, or even fear of fear. All of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives and it can be a real stumbling block that holds us back from being truly successful.
Fear can’t hold you back forever if you don’t let it. There are several ways to overcome fear, here are my top 9 favorite ways to kill my fearful ego:
- SEPARATE REALITY FROM PERCEPTION
Ask yourself what is really going on, locate the facts and place them over your feelings.
- IDENTIFY THE TRIGGER
Figure out what it is in a situation or who it is that triggers you. Learning to identify it will help you learn to combat it and avoid it or the person in the future.
- KNOW WHERE FEAR LIVES IN YOUR BODY
A lot of times, fear takes over the physical body. It affects different people in different ways. Identify if/how it affects your physical body and do the work to take care of your body. Ex: if you hold stress in your back, you can learn stretches, foam rolling, etc. to avoid the pain. Most women hold stress in their necks and shoulders.
- PRACTICE A GRATITUDE ATTITUDE ALWAYS
Every day, list out 1-3 things you are thankful for. It doesn’t matter how big or small it is, gratitude helps shift the mind into a positive light, which over time, overcomes fear. Over time you will begin to forgive people you never knew you could. For you of course, because any anger you hold in your heart only holds you back from enlightenment. That is the entire purpose of our lives.
- LISTEN TO YOUR SPIRIT IT KNOWS THE REAL YOU
Monitor your inner conversations. If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself. Speak positively to yourself and remind yourself of your strengths.
- CREATE A NEW ASSOCIATION
Remind yourself that the feeling and the moment will pass. Focus on the positive outcome of the situation, rather than the scary in-between. Do not worry about what will happen 6 months down the road, focus on the day-by-day.
- LOOK AT THE GLASS HALF FULL
Perception is a very powerful thing, and how you feel about your situation dictates how you respond. So, think positively and you’ll give yourself a much better chance of a successful change. This won’t happen overnight; practice with just one thought at a time. What is one recurring negative/fearful thought you have? Work on reversing this one thought. Over time, this will become a habit.
- PRACTICE BREATHING EXERCISES
Breathing helps center your body; when you stop breathing, your heart stops beating. You can do a grounding exercise, or even just take 5 deep, long breaths at any point to calm and center yourself. It is best to start your day with this but feel free to practice all day long. Create a sanctuary spot in your home you can go to recollect yourself. A spot free of clutter and stress where you can meditate your stress away.
- CREATE A SAFE SPACE FOR YOURSELF
When you feel safe and secure, there is no room for fear. Find somewhere safe you can retreat to when ill feelings begin- whether this is a real place such as your bedroom, or a place in your mind such as the beach. This sense of comfort will soothe you and allow you to face your fear. I do suggest a spot close to home but quiet so you can just be one with nature and your own thoughts.